I always have a lot of questions about accommodati I always have a lot of questions about accommodation when we stay anywhere as a family so I thought I’d share this little tour of our room at @windjammerlanding which was a pretty perfect place to stay.

It’s the ‘Ocean View Two Bedroom’ which was like a little house, with an upstairs and downstairs, built into the hillside. Both rooms had outdoor space and their own shower rooms. Such a great option for a family.
A little photo dump from our holiday in St Lucia. A little photo dump from our holiday in St Lucia. We’ve been back a few days now but still miss the heat, the food, the pool, the constant sounds of wildlife and the lovely people. It was such a great holiday and I’m sure we’ll be back one day.
And just like that, Athena is 12! What a joy it is And just like that, Athena is 12! What a joy it is watching her grow and what a wonderful young woman she is becoming. We could not be more proud. Love you Pickle, have a great birthday.
We’ve just got back from two glorious weeks in S We’ve just got back from two glorious weeks in St Lucia staying at @windjammerlanding and it was just the holiday we needed. Two weeks of sunshine and relaxation in what must be one of the most beautiful islands in the world. 

We can’t wait to go back again in the future. Here’s just a little snippet of our trip.
AD - Press Tickets | We had such a nice day at @na AD - Press Tickets | We had such a nice day at @national_motor_museum despite the rain! The children loved the Little Beaulieu play area and we loved exploring the National Motor Museum and Top Gear exhibit before having a ride on the monorail! We went on an old open topped bus, explored the Beaulieu Manor House and loved the gardens. 
Beaulieu is always a great day out - whatever the weather. This summer they have a whole ‘Summer of Fun’ planned, with activities most days - parades, bird shows and hundreds of sculptures within the grounds too. If you’re looking for a day out this summer definitely think about heading to Beaulieu.
AD - Press Tickets | Tonight we took the kids to t AD - Press Tickets | Tonight we took the kids to their first concert - but it was so much more than just a concert! @abbavoyage is incredible. With CGI ABBA and a live band, it’s like being at an ABBA concert 40 years ago but with modern lighting, effects and sound. ABBA look and sound real, it’s a mind blowing experience.
The set includes all the songs you know and love as well as a few less familiar ones.
You can’t take photos during the show which actually made a refreshing change. A whole arena focused purely on the show and soaking up the moment. It’s definitely something the four of us will always remember.
Now, I’m off to sing Dancing Queen all the way home.
AD - Press Trip | We had such a great day at @phdo AD - Press Trip | We had such a great day at @phdockyard today. They have a fantastic Ultimate Explorer ticket that lets you visit all the attractions as many times as you like for 12 months - and after a day at Portsmouth Historic Dockyard we can see that you need more than one day to really do everything!

We explored HMS Warrior, HMS Victory and the Mary Rose Exhibition - which is incredible! We also saw where ships are built and restored and spent time in Action Stations where the kids climbed and did an assault course.

Portsmouth Historic Dockyard is such a fun, educational day out with something for all ages - we can’t wait to go on their harbour tours next time we visit!
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So why not be in it to win it? To enter, all you have to do is send @nationalhways a DM on here with a photo or video of your favourite holiday moments. You can also comment on their Facebook or Twitter #ARoadsToSummer posts with your holiday photos. I've shared a few of our favourite photos to give you some inspiration.

The best six entries will each win a £500 @nationaltrust holidays voucher! SO what are you waiting for? Dig out your favourite holiday photos or take some new ones to share!

The #ARoadsToSummer competition runs from 24 July to 10 September 2023. Winners will be announced in September 2023.

Good luck!
Oh these two! Every day I feel lucky to have them. Oh these two! Every day I feel lucky to have them. As school draws to a close at lunchtime, I’m looking forward to a whole summer with them. My favourite people.

They’ve both had a great year at school this year. Troy’s first without his sister by his side and Athena’s first at secondary school. 

They both had great reports, always did their best and have made some really lovely new friends this year. I could not be more proud of them.

Now, let’s go and enjoy the next six weeks before school starts all over again!
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Childhood · November 15, 2019

When is Bullying a Police Matter?

This week is Anti Bullying Week and it’s made me think a lot about everything I went through during my school years. I was bullied relentlessly at school and I’ve written about it quite a few times now but it’s only recently that I’ve looked back and realised that the abuse I suffered, if you remove the word bullying associated with it, is something the police should have been involved with.

I know, times have changed. The world and society now is not the same as it was twenty years ago. But, back then, I was spat on by other teenagers as they got off a bus, I was smacked repeatedly with a metal woodworking file in design technology. I was bruised for weeks and it drew blood in places. On my last day at the school before our GCSEs started I was followed all the way home – from Teddington to Surbiton, around 2.5 miles – by a group of half a dozen 16 year old boys. I was too scared to stop to wait for a bus so I just walked all the way home and only felt safe when my front door was closed behind me.

Add to that the constant verbal abuse, getting tripped up or my chair pulled out as I went to sit down and getting litres of water poured over my head as I walked through the PE changing rooms and really you have a catalogue of harassment and abuse that should not be happening and if the school cannot make it stop the police should be involved. Obviously, reporting something like this to the police is an absolute last resort – parents and teachers need to be the first port of call. But, if nothing changes and a child has experienced violence, hate crimes or repeated harassment or intimidation then they have grounds to report it to the police.

So much has changed in the last twenty years and a big part of that is the rise of social media. I’m so thankful that I didn’t go through my teenage years with social media around. I’m glad that I could get respite from the school bullies in the evenings. But now there is no let up on the harassment that children receive. It can happen day and night – every single day and even at weekends. There is no escape – so is it any wonder that so many children just cannot cope?

There is so much more awareness around issues that affect children and teenagers today. Bullying, mental health, eating disorders and even the rising rates of suicide amongst young people. I think a lot of these issues were around when I was younger but there wasn’t the same awareness of them that there is now and there also wasn’t the constant pressure of social media making them so much worse.

But what is the solution? I think that any parent with a child who is being bullied needs to remove the term bullying from the situation and look at what is happening factually. Are they being abused physically/emotionally/verbally? Is it constant, are they being harassed? Are they being attacked online – having photos or videos of them shared? All of this can create a case for criminal prosecution. All of this is something that, in an adult world, would be taken much more seriously. The term bullying is valid but it shouldn’t be used to tone down the experience that someone is going through. Bullying is abuse.

Parents need to talk to the school, talk to the other children’s parents if you can. Talk to anyone who will listen to make the bullying stop. Children get bullied for all sorts of reasons – and no reason at all – and it just isn’t fair that their school years – and often the rest of their lives – should be tainted like that.

There is only so much that a school can do. They can give detentions, exclude children, talk to the children’s parents and deal with situations as best they can. But, if the children’s parents can’t or don’t do anything to help the situation there isn’t much else that can be done. So if a child is being abused or harassed and it continues to happen despite talking to the school then the police should be involved.

Looking back I really wish that my parents had at least sought advice from the police. When you’re 15 and too scared to stand still to wait for your bus, when you spend every lunch break at school hiding and when you do anything you can to get out of PE lessons as you end up being hurt every time, something has to be done. It has to be taken seriously and it’s only now that I really appreciate the severity of what I went through. But, I also know so many people have it so much worse.

If you have a child who is affected by bullying please seek advice as soon as you can. BullyingUK and the Anti Bullying Alliance are great place to start. And services like BetterHelp can offer fantastic counselling services to parents and adults too.

When is Bullying a Police Matter?

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  1. Suzanne says

    November 15, 2019 at 8:20 am

    My son is experiencing some abuse at the moment, from a group of boys who wait for him and his friends outside school and harass them physically, verbally and emotionally. As you say, it’s also online. The issue is, they aren’t from our school, in fact I’m not sure they go to any school. The group is known by the police but unless any of our boys are prepared to come forward and name and shame, there’s little they can do about it. I’ve spoken to the school as it happened outside school last Friday but again, they are trying to urge the boys to speak to the police. It’s a tough one because they are scared. I’m so sorry you went through this Donna. I’m in awe of you carrying on even going to school! Xx

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  2. Kim Carberry says

    November 15, 2019 at 9:14 pm

    It sounds like you had an horrific time at school and being bullied. I am so sorry you had to go through that..

    My teen was bullied a few years ago by a couple of people. There was name calling and more at school and the teachers did try to stop it but not really. The boy visited my blog and printed out photos and handed them around the school. Photos of my girl when she was about 9/10 years old. The school said it was just a bit of fun. When the bullies emailed me using fake names and email accounts saying they wanted Becky to go to town with them the school wouldn’t help even though school computers were used. The bullies started making YouTube videos about my girl which the school would not put a stop to, they weren’t bothered as they were being made out of school time.

    I had enough and rang 101 just to ask advice and the police were amazing. I actually felt daft phoning and told the woman on the phone and she said no crimes had been committed. They take online and offline bullying seriously and gave the school a good telling off and the bullies warnings. The ringleader was told that if anything happened to my teen, if another video was made with a different account or anything he would be arrested as the police would assume it had came from him.

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