Christmas 2013 was Little Man’s First Christmas. A couple of years ago, 2011, was LP’s First Christmas. I have now lived through two ‘First Christmas’ celebrations.
Were they the amazing, magical, twinkling experiences seen in the movies and advertised in shops? Complete with sugar plum fairies, flying snowmen and magical reindeer feed?
No. They weren’t.
I hate to shatter illusions but Baby’s First Christmas is something every parent dreams of. A special first Christmas bauble for the tree, a first Christmas outfit, a first visit to see Santa and looking for those special first Christmas presents.
Baby’s first Christmas is something that is planned to perfection – every single detail is organised and orchestrated to make sure that the first Christmas as a family, or with a new arrival, is the most amazing Christmas that ever happened. Baby’s first Christmas is put on a pedestal so high, with expectations so huge that even Santa himself would have trouble living up to the dreams that we’ve seen portrayed in Christmas films and seasonal advertising every year since our own childhoods.
In reality, Baby’s First Christmas is more for the parent’s benefit than the baby’s. The baby – whether a few weeks old or 11 months old will not remember that first Christmas. They will also not be able to participate in it a huge amount – yes a baby can eat Christmas dinner with you, but they aren’t great at unwrapping presents even at a year old and their attention span is short at best.
On Baby’s First Christmas, parents still need to feed the baby, change nappies and get the baby to have naps. The day to day ‘chores’ of having a baby continue. Things like exploding poopy nappies, projectile milky vomit and teething hell don’t stop purely because Santa’s been. Christmas day, as far as a baby is concerned, is just another day to poop, wee, eat, sleep and cry.
If anyone with a baby at Christmas felt in any way disappointed or let down by Baby’s First Christmas then don’t worry – That feeling is natural. When people ask you how Baby’s First Christmas was you smile and say how perfect and amazing it had been. You wax lyrical about how ‘Baby’ put out a mince pie for Santa, a carrot for Rudolph. You tell everyone about the first visit to Santa and about how you put the presents quietly under the tree on Christmas Eve. You show everyone the photos of your baby in their Christmas outfit on Christmas day and the photos of that first visit to Santa. But you don’t tell anyone about how the whole of December was full of teething, how you didn’t get more than a couple of hours sleep at a time for the whole of advent. You don’t mention that ‘Baby’ was only in their Christmas outfit for 40 minutes because they were sick all over it the minute the photo was taken or that when you went to visit Santa they screamed their head off the whole time and you only managed to take a photo by jiggling them up and down singing frere jacque for fifteen minutes beforehand.
When people ask, you don’t tell them how you ate Christmas dinner one handed whilst breastfeeding the baby, or how your dinner had to be reheated as you spent the whole of the meal trying to settle a grumpy baby. You don’t mention the fact that you unwrapped every single present that Santa left, even though you were up until 1am Christmas Eve wrapping them up as baby had no interest in unwrapping them – and you definitely don’t mention how the only thing you asked Santa for was some sleep and for teething hell to sod off until the New Year.
Baby’s First Christmas isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. As new parents to our first baby we found that first Christmas exhausting. LP was 4 months old and we’d been up the whole of the night before. We were shattered and yet we still went to people’s houses, rocking LP for naps, changing nappies and not really having a break at all. This time with Little Man Christmas was all about his Sister. LP is now 26 months old and she loved Christmas. Little Man’s first Christmas was great – because LP loved it. Little Man’s first Christmas for him was just another day and to be honest, the fact it was his first Christmas was irrelevant – I didn’t even remember to get him a bauble for the tree! Little Man had Christmas dinner with us, wore his outfit – until it got food all over it, had naps, had nappy changes and did what he does on normal days – played in his walker, played with some toys. He was oblivious.
Was Baby’s First Christmas everything you expected it to be? No. But after that first Christmas you have much more realistic expectations. You know that Santa isn’t going to leave you a sack full of sleep and that Christmas may be full of teething and leaky nappies. But, whether Christmas is your Baby’s first one, or their tenth one, it’s an amazing time. LP’s first Christmas was exhausting and emotional but it was Christmas, and it was lovely – It just wasn’t something they’d sing about in a Disney movie.
Baby’s First Christmas may not be full of dancing elves and singing robins – but neither is real life. Life isn’t a Disney movie. Baby’s first Christmas is whatever you make it if you keep at the front of your mind that it’ll be exactly the same as any other day as far as baby is concerned BUT you get to be surrounded by lovely family, eat great food and have presents you won’t be disappointed.
How was your Baby’s First Christmas?
17 thoughts on “Baby’s First Christmas – Is it the magical experience we dream of?”
You just described mine lol! Practially to a t! x
Yep, this was my Christmas! My little boy is 3 months old, and it was running upstairs to breastfeed him every 2 hours, nappy changes galore and regularly trying to calm him when the noise got him agitated!
But as you said, still a wonderful time!
Sorry Elaine! Totally commented on your comment by mistake!
Sorry Elaine! Totally commented on your comment by mistake!
You’re right. I remember not really enjoying our first with Boo. Last year, with Little Man at 3 months old for his 1st Christmas, it was better, as we had Boo to enjoy it with, and he slept at lunchtime – though I still gulped down my dinner as I knew he’d want a feed as soon as he woke! Definitely gets better as they get older, doesn’t it? x
Definitely gets better as they get older 🙂 Thanks for reading x
We had James’s first Christmas up North with my family. I thought it was great as J was the centre of attention and we had my grandma there too who, since then, has had to go into a nursing home. My brother announced his engagement to his long-suffering girlfriend and it was a brilliant day, despite having to try and get him to nap in a very busy house. I wasn’t trying to make it special, but I did want to be with my family in the north. My family made it special without any more effort than turning up at my mum’s house. I don’t want to gloat and I’m sorry if it’s coming across like that! I think placing too much emphasis on *things* is what dilutes the magic. Babies don’t give a hoot. Just let things happen and don’t plan too much would be my advice.
Agree completely – everyone is very focused on the material things. I definitely think having family around not only helps with dealing with the day to day baby tasks but also makes it more special. Glad you had a lovely first Christmas 🙂 Thanks for reading x
I was really interested to read this as we’ve just had our first Christmas as parents. You’re right about it mainly being a special event for parents rather than the baby. After all, waking up too excited to sleep at some time between 5-7am is a pretty frequent thing for our 8 month old!
That said, our Christmas was special, if a bit more tiring than usual. It was great to introduce our son to quite a few relatives who’d not met him before and some others who’d not seen him for a few months.
Agree completely – Christmas is ‘special’ whatever age the child is – I just think when they’re older it becomes more magical. It sounds like you had a lovely Christmas, Thanks so much for reading 🙂 x
What a great post, I was nodding in agreement the whole way through. This was actually Mini Milk’s second Christmas (and Half Pint’s 12th!), and I found it more special than his first. It is as they grow into Christmas that the magic happens – his first Christmas I spent swapping his array of Christmas bibs over as reflux threatened to ruin his outfit!
I definitely agree that magic happens as they grow! Thanks so much for reading 🙂 x
It does seem that the UK goes a bit Christmas crazy – especially with first Christmases! 11 months would be a great age at Christmas – so much more interactive than a couple of months old! Thanks so much for reading x
Thanks so much for reading – a photographer friend took the pictures, so glad we have them to look back on x
BOTH mine spent all Christmas eve night on their first Christmas’s hardly sleeping – little buggers 😉 I got 3 hours sleep this past one. They are good usually its like they had some sort of ‘lets ruin Christmas’ pact.
I hope you get some sleep next Christmas then! 🙂 Although soon they’ll be waking at the crack of dawn from excitement that Santa’s been! x
What great photos! Grace was born on 2nd January so she was nearly 1 for her first Christmas! I have to say that it wasn’t quite what I expected – definitely more for me than her! Thank you for linking to PoCoLo x