The Death of a Pet

Dave came to pick me up from work last night. I thought he’d done it to save me the walk but it turned out he’d had a phone call an hour before, on his way home from work, from our vet. Someone had taken Luke, our boy cat there after finding him under a car where they lived. There was nothing they could do.

The Death of a Pet

They think he was hit by a car, that he died quickly, and that gives us some comfort. He was always an adventurer, forever losing his collars and getting into trouble – we had a couple of phone calls from people over the years telling us he was in their gardens, looking for food or treats. He got everywhere and loved being outside. We never knew where he was but he always came home for dinner.

The Death of a Pet

We got Luke and Leia when they were about 8 weeks old. Their Mum was bought to be a stable cat to keep the mice away and had got pregnant before her owners had a chance to get her spayed. We paid £20 for each cat, took them home the same day and then spent a fortune in injections, insurance, food and toys – the amount of toys we bought those bloomin’ cats!

That was in January 2008 and since then they have kept me company on so many of Dave’s night shifts, they have seen us get engaged, get married, move house and have the children. They have been there through everything. Luke used to hug my bump in pregnancy, wanting to get as close to me as possible and after LP was born he got very stressed and ended up on anti depressants to calm him down as he licked his bum and tail so much he lost all his fur.

The Death of a Pet

Cats are apparently quite independent creatures. Doing what they want to do and being quite self sufficient. Luke was nothing like that. He was a baby in cat form. A gorgeous boy who would want to be with you all the time, follow you from room to room and would try to occupy the same space as you when he lay on the sofa with you in the evening. He would lay under the covers in bed and would love your warmth, putting his big paws on your face and neck so carefully but wanting to just be so close to you.

The Death of a Pet

The children loved Luke and telling them that he wasn’t coming back was worse that finding out he had died. LP cried and said she wanted Luke back and it was devastating. The pain of losing a pet is massive no matter what your age.

The Death of a Pet

Luke was 7 years old. He was in his prime and he was a great cat, in good health and with an amazing personality. He made us laugh, got everywhere and gave the best cuddles you could ever have from an animal. He was more than our pet, he was our friend.

The Death of a Pet

The cats have annoyed the hell out of me since the kids came along. It’s no secret that they’d miaow constantly, claw our furniture and be sick all over the house but when I look back now I just remember the cuddles, his cheeky little face and the comfort he has always given us. He was very much loved and I know that he loved us too. One thing is for sure, I’d let them use the sofa as a permanent scratching post for one more day with my beautiful boy cat.

The Death of a Pet

I have seen friends lose pets recently and I could imagine the pain of losing a much loved pet but I couldn’t begin to imagine the overwhelming grief I feel. I’m still in shock that he has gone – it was so unexpected and I didn’t get a chance to say goodbye. I just hope that his sister doesn’t miss him too much and that we all get used to our new normal at some point.

Lukey, I hope you are being spoilt wherever you are. You daft animal. Love you Lulu x

The Death of a Pet


  • Donna Wishart

    Donna Wishart is married to Dave and they have two children, Athena (12) and Troy (11). They live in Surrey with their two cats, Fred and George. Once a Bank Manager, Donna has been writing about everything from family finance to days out, travel and her favourite recipes since 2012. Donna is happiest either exploring somewhere new, with her camera in her hand and family by her side or snuggled up with a cat on her lap, reading a book and enjoying a nice cup of tea. She firmly believes that tea and cake can fix most things.

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  1. so sorry to hear your news, I know what it’s like to loose a pet they are part of the family. You have many happy memories, just think of those happy times even if it makes you sad as well. Best wishes Loraine

  2. oh how very sad for you all , it is hard but later as the tears and sadness subside and you still miss him but find it easier to chat about looking over pictures and talking about your happy memories will help. I lost pets as a child and always found it hard at first , now I have kids of my own I find it so hard seeing them upset when we have lost a budgie or a finch and even a gold fish we won at the fair . But good memories and time to heal do help.

  3. This makes me so sad. I can tell how much you loved him through reading this, I feel the same way about my cats. They are a part of the family and I can’t even imagine how hard it’ll be for me to say goodbye to them when the time comes, let alone like you’ve had to. He was a gorgeous little boy and the photos you’ve posted of him must be so special. I’m so so sorry for your loss. 🙁 xx

  4. oh I am so very sorry to read of your loss. One of the reasons we’ve not bought a pet for the girls yet is because I remember vividly what it was like when I was younger and lost a pet myself. I will still grieve to this day. People who’ve never had a pet like this will never fully understand that they’re not just a pet, they’re a part of your everyday family. At least you can look back with fond memories knowing that you provided him with the most amazing and loving home. Steph xxx

  5. Oh Donna 🙁
    I’m so sorry, poor Luke he sounds like he was a lovely cat.
    It must have been so difficult to try to explain to the kids knowing how upset they would be as well.
    I totally agree with what other commenters have said that unless you’ve ever had a pet you can’t know how much a pet truly becomes a family member and losing them is just the most heartbreaking thing. Big hugs hope you’re all doing okay xx

  6. I am so sorry Donna pets are members of your family and it is awful when you lose them. My boy cat cuddled my bump too. I hope Leis doesn’t mourn him too much. Thinking of you x

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