What Are Your Thoughts on Gender Specific Toys?

When LP was born we tried to avoid having a house full of pink. She suited wearing bright colours and had a wardrobe full of bright and beautiful things. When buying toys we bought neutral colours and because of our love of wooden toys this was fairly easy to do. I wanted a house with minimal pink and because of this we found that we didn’t really push pink ‘girly’ things on LP, the one pink thing she did have was a pink wooden kitchen for her second Birthday because it was cheaper than the neutral one!

Having said that, LP is now three. She has a mind of her own and if we are shopping and she likes something then I’ll make note of things to get at a later date. LP has recently decided that she wants to be a Princess or a Fairy and dance around the room constantly. She loves pink, it is her favourite colour and if asked what colour of something she would like, it would be a pink one.

On the other hand, LP wants to go into space, she wants to visit the moon and she wants to take her brother there too. But when we were sent a rocket tent to review recently what was LP’s comment after playing with it for days? “Can we get a new rocket please Mummy? I want to go to space in a pink one!”

The point of this post? I think children will play with whatever colour toys they have and Little Man will always play with his older sister’s toys regardless of whether they are pink or not. But then children will get their own minds, their own ideas and they will have preferences of their own and based on LP I don’t really think you can influence this too much. We have a home that is pretty free of pink aside from pink Mega Bloks, a pink wooden kitchen and a few things in LP’s wardrobe and yet she adores pink now, a colour that we have avoided as much as possible.

So really, let kids be kids, let them play with what they want and in the end they will work it out for themselves.

What Are Your Thoughts on Gender Specific Toys?
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  1. January 9, 2015 / 7:25 am

    Yes. Exactly. We tried not to do the whole boyish thing and when I’m buying toys for O, I aim to get gender- neutral toys and books. But lo and behold, he prefers to cars, his tools and workbench. He does play with his cousins dolls and pushchairs too. But when Christmas or Birthdays come around, and you know they really want a specific thing, it would be a bit mean not to get it for them because it was “too girly” or “too boyish”. They’ll choose for themselves anyway!

  2. January 9, 2015 / 1:46 pm

    Like you we tried to avoid having too much pink and have been mostly successful; I’d say we have a fairly even balance.

    Georgie does like wearing girly pink clothes as dress up, but also says her favourite colour is blue! She definitely has a mind of her own though and likes to pick her own clothes and so on – it’s amazing how early they form their own very firm opinions.

  3. January 9, 2015 / 2:20 pm

    I think at first you have a lot of ideals, but the children decide in the end. I’m in the weird position where my 6 and 4 year olds both have colour vision issues and see red and pink as really standing out and vibrant, so they pick them over other colours regularly, despite both being boys. My daughter who is now 15 was never properly dressed without a bright pink feather boa until she was around 6. I think letting them explore however they safely and reasonably want to is more important – colour is secondary. It’s the photos on the boxes that make it a girl toy or a boy toy, not the colours 😉

  4. Katherine Hannigan
    January 9, 2015 / 6:35 pm

    I often see posts about this subject and wonder if people push gender neutral toys on their children to prove some kind of point ? Like you we usually choose whatever has the best price (if it’s pink then so be it). Evie also loves dressing up as a princess and playing with her dolls, but she is also happy to play with the garage we bought for her or fly around the room with a towel on her head being a superhero. Pink and “girly” things have never been predominant in our house but still if E was allowed free reign in a toy shop I have no hesitation that she would choose something either pink, doll related (or at the moment Frozen related) maybe it is just genetics ?! Either way….If she is happy then I’m happy

  5. January 9, 2015 / 10:28 pm

    I really couldn’t care less what toys my boys play with, so long as they enjoy it, who cares!
    I do think parents who push all this “gender neutral” are just as bad as those who push “gendered” toys at their kids, let the kids decide what they want to play with, way more important things in life than pink and blue!

  6. January 10, 2015 / 12:03 am

    I totally agree, we had problems at Christmas trying to find a decent kitchen for Harry that wasn’t pink!! I was very disappointed at the lack of choice! We managed to get a decent one in the end and he hasn’t stopped playing with it since!

  7. January 10, 2015 / 7:37 am

    With Ethan I noticed that there would be a boys colour and a pink version of the toys. I always noticed that the pink was more expensive, so vowed that we would stay away from pink toys if we ever had a little girl. That being said we now own a pink play mat, pink seahorse and pink baby walker. We avoided the pink play center as it was the same price as the green one but had less on it. Clothes wise I’m embracing everything pink. I have two nieces that will only wear black now so I’m happy to push pink whilst I get the chance. Obviously that is not the only colour Little E wears but she does have a lot of pink things, noticed even more when it comes to doing the washing!

  8. January 10, 2015 / 1:57 pm

    I recently saw a photo on facebook and it was of a little boy playing with a dog. The caption was something like, ‘Are you worried he’ll turn out to be a good father?’ Thought it was fab! xx

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