The Creepy Side of Blogging

You might read the title of this and think that, surely, there isn’t a creepy side to blogging. That blogging is all pretty pictures, nice stories about days out and families doing things together, sharing beautiful snippets of life across social media. But, a recent news report showed how creepy blogging can actually be.

Now, not many of us will have someone create a social media account and then follow our movements, dressing like us and taking photos in exactly the same places as us. But, most bloggers will at some point or another have felt a little on edge or even violated whilst blogging.

We share so much of our lives online and there are times when readers get quite attached to us, our families and this social media bubble that we create. It’s like a real life soap opera and even the most mundane of bloggers’ lives can be interesting to someone standing on the sidelines looking in. I love sharing little bits of our lives, days out and the ordinary moments – as do many bloggers, it’s now very much a part of my life and daily routine.

But there are times when other people will reply to literally everything you post online. They’ll comment on every single blog post and it may only be one or two words but it shows that they are there, watching your life constantly as it unfolds on your blog and social media.

There are also people that will tweet or share something on Facebook, responding to your social shares or even your blog posts. But not tagging you in them, not making you part of the conversation – just a passive, aggressive response, usually at your expense. Bloggers will find themselves the butt of jokes or the topic of conversation in Twitter threads, Facebook groups, other blog posts and even offline too. What starts off as someone having a bit of a dig can slowly turn into obsession, verging on harassment, with no real logic or reason.

Plenty of bloggers have had photos stolen, blog posts duplicated or ideas stolen and well meaning strangers hanging on their every word. But, being on the receiving end of this attention can make you feel differently about blogging. It can make you worry about the things you post online, it can make you feel vulnerable and it can make you question whether blogging is the right thing to be doing at all.

If you’re a blogger and this sounds familiar then don’t get disheartened. Don’t stop writing and doing this thing you love. Just see it as flattery – your photos must be lovely to be stolen, your blog posts must be pretty good to be copied and if you’re often a topic of conversation then it means you are obviously something worth talking about!

But, if you’re a reader, reading this and thinking ‘woah, I comment on literally everything someone does on social media but I’m just bored, I like reading it, it’s like real life Eastenders!’ – then don’t worry, I’m sure we all know you mean well. Just don’t dress the same as us and go around taking photos at places we have recently been to – now, that would be creepy!

The Creepy Side of Blogging

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  1. November 23, 2016 / 9:27 am

    I wouldn’t go as far as it being creepy but it freaks me out when a reader stops us in RL and starts chatting away like they’re my best friend. Sometimes you forget how much of yourself you share online x

    • November 23, 2016 / 9:43 am

      That hasn’t happened to me yet! x

  2. November 23, 2016 / 9:43 am

    So far I haven’t got myself any stalkers but in the back of my mind I’m always thinking about the point you made with people sharing your content and not including you. Luckily my photos aren’t that good 😛

  3. November 23, 2016 / 9:52 am

    Ooooh, this is giving me goose bumps (not the good kind!). The thought that some people could be malevolent in their ‘following’ of our blogs, or even stalking (yikes!) is scary, isn’t it?

  4. Tim
    November 23, 2016 / 2:40 pm

    I’ve had a few instances where friends, colleagues or neighbours have started talking to me about posts I’ve written seemingly at random, which is a little disconcerting but quite flattering really. (I don’t *do* flattery very well, though – I get all flustered when people compliment me on something I’ve written.)

    On at least two occasions I’ve had to go marching in somewhere with a “cease and desist or the next communication you get will be from my lawyer, you plagiarising thief, you” when someone has copied and pasted a post wholesale from my blog. (They never take the good ones, either, only the ones that make me cringe.) That’s just annoying – and illegal. No doubt it’s happened on other occasions without be noticing.

    But on the whole I like it when people regularly (or even occasionally) comment or tweet me back or engage in any other way. It’s nice to know people take an interest in my mundane witterings and that on occasion I have even said or done something that has helped someone else in some small way.

  5. November 23, 2016 / 11:13 pm

    Ohhhhh…. Sorry Donna. But you know, it’s a compliment really. It’s just because I like you 😉
    Nat.x

  6. November 24, 2016 / 10:33 am

    I wouldn’t say creepy as such, but it still surprises me when I meet up with people I haven’t seen in a while and they say oh yes I read about that on your blog.

  7. Laura
    November 25, 2016 / 8:19 pm

    I have someone who comments on nearly all of my Facebook blog page posts, she even once Facebook messaged me saying she didn’t want to follow me because I didn’t reply to her all the time :S
    Scary

  8. August 1, 2018 / 7:13 am

    As a newbie this is a tiny bit freaky and is something I thought very heavily about before starting, mostly in relation to my babies. On balance however I am sure the good that comes from blogs I.e. the lovely comments and the ability to be able to write in pajamas outweighs the occasional creepiness (I hope 😳)

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