10 Reasons I Loved Baby Led Weaning – Two Years On

One of decisions that we made as parents was to do baby led weaning with LP and Little Man. It’s a decision that was easy to make and that I have been glad of ever since. It was part of the reason I started blogging and something I have blogged about regularly since but not since Little Man turned one. So I thought it was time to give a little update on how baby led weaning worked for us.

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Here are 10 reasons why I loved baby led weaning:

It’s free – Baby led weaning fitted so effortlessly into our lives that we didn’t need to buy any extra food for the first few months and we only really bought extra exotic fruit or foods that we didn’t eat usually to see what the children would think of them. We didn’t have to buy any baby food products unless we wanted to.

It’s easy – As with the above, baby led weaning fitted so easily into our lives. The children ate what we ate. We didn’t have to make purees or anything extra for them and the most we did was add cucumber and cucumber sticks to the side of a typical meal. Baby led weaning for us was a lazy choice – but a fantastic one.

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It’s convenient – The children didn’t have to eat something special in restaurants and shared our meals from the start until they were both over two – and then started having their own children’s meal. Wherever we went there was something for the children to eat and we didn’t have to pack special food or find some way to heat it up. The children just ate whatever was on offer.

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It helps children make their own food choices – From the start of baby led weaning we offered the children a choice of foods on one plate – or their high chair tray at the start. They’d have what we were eating – bolognese for example – and so would have bolognese sauce, spaghetti, garlic bread, cheese and then veg sticks in front of them. They could explore the food, play with it and eat it but they had the option to eat which bits they wanted to eat. Even now, two years on, the children like to have the same food options as the adults and eat the things they want to eat. They have really varied tastes and love things like spicy curries, fajitas and stir fry.

It’s relaxed – From the start of baby led weaning we didn’t have to worry about how much they were eating, whether they’d eaten the right food groups or whether they were going to open their mouth for the next spoon of food. We put food in front of them and they ate it in their own time. Some meals were a success, others weren’t but we reminded ourselves constantly that food is fun until they’re one and by that point they were both eating a good meal three times a day. Before the age of one they still get all the nutrients they need from milk so food intake isn’t an issue.

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It’s social – Baby led weaning lets children eat at the same time as their parents, without anyone’s food going cold. They can sit at the table with grown ups or other children and can participate fully in meals times – making happy noises and practising their sounds whilst eating. Baby led weaning helps children to learn about the social side of meal times and ever since LP has started weaning we have eaten together as a family as much as possible.

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It’s a talking point – Whether we are at a friend’s house or out at a restaurant or cafe, people always comment on how well the children eat and have done since they were tiny. People are always amazed at seeing small babies eating proper food and it brings out curiosity in everyone. I used to love introducing strangers to the wonder of baby led weaning.

It made us laugh – LP and Little Man had a new taste face that they’d make each time they tried something new. It was the sweetest, cutest and funniest thing we had ever seen. As well as that, babies have their own techniques of getting food to their mouths and often Little Man’s hand movements would have us in hysterics. Baby led weaning is a funny business!

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It was never boring – Cooking new things for the children to try, buying new exotic fruit or going to a posh restaurant when the children were a year old. Baby led weaning was never boring and helped us all to have new experiences. It was great seeing their reactions to different foods, working out their preferences and using those to try new things. It was an exciting time.

It was fun – Everyone knows that baby led weaning is messy but that doesn’t stop it being fun. The children loved exploring new foods and we loved watching their reactions. Once we’d got over the initial shock of just how messy it was we found it to be a really enjoyable experience – and the mess thankfully got less over time too! The children loved learning about food and we enjoyed it too.

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If you want more tips or advice on baby led weaning check out our Top 10: Baby Led Weaning Tips post – it has my best advice for anyone looking to start baby led weaning.

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Weaning Adventures from Little Pink Teacup – Guest Post

This week is the final installment in my Baby Led Weaning series and it comes from Clare over at Little Pink Teacup. Clare has to be one of my closest blogging chums and as we have fairly similar aged children I can relate a lot of what she blogs about. Go and look at her blog or find her on Twitter too @Belledidyoutell.

I am the proud weaner (is that a word? Microsoft says no…) of two babies and I wear my invisible mummy badge with pride because as any mama (or papa) knows, it ain’t as easy as it looks in them picture books!

My eldest, Moo (now three and a half), weaned early. She suffered from a very severe type of reflux that caused her to fit when it struck. It was upsetting and traumatic so as soon as she hit that four month mark I was there, armed with a Bumbo, heat-sensitive spoon and home-made apple puree!

She took to it like a duck to water and yummed it up. I was so glad when her reflux died out into nothingness. My husband’s cousin had not long had a baby and she had done all the things that at the time were considered ‘new-agey’ and ‘hipsterish’ like hypnobirthing, water birthing and baby led weaning. I remember being pregnant and she’d pop over from Jersey and rave for hours about pregnancy yoga, birth plans and the dreaded weaning. To be honest, I thought the idea of baby led weaning was all a bit hippy-ish…

…until she hit six months and would physically wrestle the spoon of my lovingly-hand-prepared purée combos out of my hands. She was SO over being spoon fed now that she had figured out how to get her hand to her mouth and out again. So I did a spot of research and tentatively tested the waters with some carrot fingers.

We never looked back.

So naturally, when my second rolled around to the weaning stage I already had a very clear idea that baby-led was the way forward. Ha ha. He had other ideas. I tried him with foods at five and a half months as milk just didn’t seem to be enough. He wasn’t interested in either finger food or ‘mush’.

Three weeks later he finally started eating…but he wasn’t interested in feeding himself, he very much wanted the spoon treatment and would just ignore anything grab-able that I would place on his tray. I spent two tortuous weeks spoon-feeding that little monster, and if anyone thinks that traditional weaning is the ‘lazy’ way or the ‘safe’ way, I challenge you to pop round and take a look at the butternut squash stains in my carpet and hear about the backache I got from eating my (cold) dinners sat on the floor beside the Bumbo (my skinny Minnie children couldn’t sit in high chairs for ages).

Suddenly, one day he started to make grabs for the spoon, he’d snatch it and stuff it in his mouth (occasionally getting the right end, too)! Prising that thing off of him to re-load it with yet more brightly-coloured, fresh, home-blitzed gloopiness was like a battle that usually resulted in one or both of us crying.

Once again we started with baby carrots at dinnertime and it was the beginning of yet another beautiful relationship with BLW! At the moment I tend to help him with breakfast (baby porridge/muesli or yogurt) but lunch and dinner are baby led with our top favourites being clementines, carrots, parsnips and banana!

I’m really lucky to have two children who love their food and my best advice I could give for anyone just starting out on weaning would be to just not give up. Just keep trying, no baby will let themselves starve and the temptation to explore will grip them sooner or later!

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Thanks to Clare from such a lovely post – It’s great to hear from someone that has tried different weaning methods and found a way that worked in the end.

If you’d like to read more posts about Baby Led Weaning then you can see the full guest post series and more here.

The Battles and Joys of Having a Baby – Guest Post

This week’s Baby Led Weaning post comes from Suzie who can be found over at The Xenca Way – and she has a blog too! Suzie talks about her experiences of having her little boy, Harry. Suzie has even included the first video in the whole baby led weaning series – Thanks Suzie!

Harry is now nearly 7 months old and our whole feeding programme has been under criticism from my other half’s family. The battles have been with them not Harry who is a happy healthy little boy.

The first source of contention with the outlaws has been our decision to exclusively breastfeed from day 1. Harry has never had a bottle or formula. I am not anti-formula, it has its place for mums who can’t nurse for whatever reason (of which I know there are many) but for us, the free boobtender option has worked, and despite initial difficulties worked well.

The second source of contention has been the decision to use BLW (baby led weaning). From birth my mother in law has been desperate to feed Harry, whether it be a bottle or puree and I have refused – point blank refused, I have faced criticism about building a rod for my own back, to depriving my baby of normal foods, and to be honest it has driven me potty, but I am so glad I didn’t back down and wasn’t swayed in my opinion as BLW has been amazing.

For those who don’t know, rather than shovel puree mash into your baby’s mouth whether or not they want or need it from three months building up through various stages of lumpiness, and ice cube trays, cooking special little meals and spending hours portioning into the freezer (which might be your thing, and fab I am pleased for you; but to be honest I am far too busy (read lazy) to get into that and too frugal (read cheap skate) to buy jars from the supermarkets – have you seen the price of them and the sugar content?!) you just let them eat what you eat…

Waits for stunned silence….

Yep, exactly what you eat, with a few tweaks, cut out the salt when cooking and avoid things like honey but after that pretty much anything goes.

I explained this to my mother in law, and I sadly didn’t get stunning silence, but instead a tirade of how I was neglecting my baby with his first experiences of food. I politely and calmly explained that the breast-aurant was enough for Harry until 6 months and that food was for play until age 1, not substance and hoped eventually she would get it.

Fast forward and Harry hit six months, whilst my other mummy friends were complaining about the amount of time spent in the kitchen and warming ice cube trays up (though I did feel for the mum who lost her entire freezer stock with the power outages recently in Shropshire) I smiled to myself and waited. The HV fully supported our decision to wait as Harry was healthy and at 17 weeks 19lb 2 oz.

The mother in law at this point was apoplectic as friends with babies younger than Harry were eating jars of mush, and having met a friend of mine in the pub and watched how much he ate compared to Harry I was getting some serious ear-ache! But I still resisted.

Six months arrived – the magic day February 24th was here, we had seen the DVD on Baby Led Weaning via the HV bought the book and had attended first aid courses just in case. We had spent mealtimes over the last few weeks with Harry watching us from his high chair whilst we ate. The excitement was mounting and I put some of my salad on his plastic plate and waited tentatively…

Well none of it was swallowed though some went in his mouth, a fair bit went on the floor (which pleased the cats) and the bowl ended up on his head (note to self – just use tray in future) but the mealtime was stress free, it was calm, it was fun, and we ate our tea without too much issue. It took every ounce of my willpower not to pick the food up for him and hold it, but our first adventure taught me some valuable lessons.

The next meal time we tried toast, with cooled soup on the edges (homemade veg) cut into fingers, which disintegrated – so we went and toasted more and cut it into quarters. Harry loved this, he picked it up put it in his mouth and sucked the soup off, and I think actually swallowed some, again, stress free and no issues.

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What we weren’t prepared for was the tummy aches he had that night, we rang the HV and she said, wait a week and try again, and we did, this time success, no pain, and instead of worrying about how much Harry has or hasn’t eaten we ensure he has plenty of boob, after all that’s his main source of food until age 1, and see what he would like.

We tend not to offer food at every meal, but wait now for the cues that he would like something (like pinching it off our plates), if asleep we do not wake him for meals, and let him be. The whole process is so relaxed and no demented aeroplanes and shovelling in to be seen.

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We have discovered he loves celery much to my amusement as the other half hates it, cooked carrot, raw pear, raw apple, peppers raw and cooked, toast, and veg soup. The best thing is that we can take him anywhere and he eats what we eat. We went to the pub for lunch, they have a “Tapas” menu for children (chunks of bread, cheese, cucumber, carrot, fruit, 3 items for £1.20) and we got our meals and Harrys Tapas, and he was happy and content right the way through.

I love that we do not have to think about warming jars, feeding Harry before we eat, preparing ice cube trays or mixing bottles and throwing them out after 2 hours?!? (It’s all alien to me). We can go out on a whim and not have to rush back home to a puree snack, or find an open supermarket, as Harry simply eats what we have, and do you know the best bit? We have a convert……, my Mum in Law was spotted giving Harry chunks of white fish to eat himself the other day…….. At that point I really did smile. Though I do need to ensure that the packs of buttons, rusks, and rich tea biscuits don’t find their way into his hands anytime soon!

A huge thank you to Donna for encouraging me to write this post, hope you enjoy the pictures and the clips of Harry exploring food. If you decide to go along the baby led weaning route, I can recommend the Baby Led Weaning Book. I would also recommend a plastic table cloth for the floor under the highchair unless you have wooden floors (or a dog) and a highchair you can fully wash with no nooks and crannies – we love the Happy snack by Chicco.

Please note – My rants above about formula and puree are personal to me –Sometimes you don’t have a choice – for mums whose babies are milk intolerant or not gaining weight and I promise this isn’t a criticism of you, if your baby needs puree or formula and you have been advised medically to do it, please do; and don’t be offended by the above, it is just my views x

Thanks so much Suzie for this great post – I’m really glad I gave you the nudge to write it 🙂 It looks like Harry loves Baby Led Weaning just as much as we do and it’s great to hear that your Mother In Law is a convert!

If you’d like to read more posts about Baby Led Weaning then you can see the full guest post series and more here.

Carie’s Baby Led Weaning Experiences – Guest Post

Today’s Baby Led Weaning guest post comes from Carie who can be found on Space for the Butterflies and over on Twitter @CariemayMakes – Her blog is worth reading for the photography alone, I love the photos of her gorgeous girls!

I never set out to be a baby led weaning mama. But then again I’m not sure I set out with much of a predetermined plan for parenting. All we really knew was that we were having a baby, we were going to love him or her more than any baby had ever been loved ever ever ever, and we’d figure the rest out as we went along.

And that’s pretty much how it’s been. I nursed and Kitty thrived, so I kept doing it until she weaned herself just shy of her second birthday. We co-slept when it was what Kitty seemed to need, and let her have her own space when she wanted that, and I think I am, and always will be, learning from my girls and trying to figure out what’s best for our little family at any given moment.

When it came to the time to start food, a friend from our antenatal class mentioned Baby Led Weaning I was intrigued; I’d never heard of it before but the more I heard the more I liked.

We had a great weaning session from our Health Visitors at the baby clinic, which was extraordinarily eye opening as far as the content of pre-prepared baby food was concerned, and she talked about purees for weaning and baby led and simply presented them as options; no bias, no judgment, just information and the confident expectation that we would choose whatever seemed best for our family and our babies.

And for Kitty it just seemed to make sense. She’d been trying to poach food off our plates for a few weeks before we started and I think the first food she ever licked was a slice of cucumber purloined from the salad accompanying my fish and chips when we were out to supper one night. She started officially with sticks of fresh pepper or cucumber; steamed broccoli ‘trees’ and a good handful of whatever she could pinch off someone else’s plate and never really looked back, especially when she discovered just how much fun you could have with a bowl of tomato pasta shapes!

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Kitty

And Elma, finally let loose on all this lovely food after six months of sitting at the dinner table watching us eat, just couldn’t get going fast enough. At fifteen months she still very firmly believes that all food was put on this earth for her to eat and gets very cross if she thinks someone is eating something that she hasn’t been offered. And as Kitty is always sweet enough to want to share it’s probably a good thing we went down the BLW route, or we might have found it was sister-led weaning whenever we weren’t looking.

Carie

Elma and Kitty eat what we eat, and always have. Sometimes cut up a little more, or mixed with a little yoghurt to cool the spice and the heat if it’s curry night, and they seem to be thriving on it.

Right now Elma’s favourite foods are sausages, blueberries, mashed potatoes (eaten by the fistful), breadsticks, carrots, stewed apple and anything currently on Mama’s plate – I keep going to pick up my supper and find that a little hand has reached out and snaffled it first, even if there’s already some of whatever it was on her plate!

Kitty at three and a half is right in the middle of the neophobic stage and sometimes even the things she loved yesterday are persona non grata today. We’re trying to stick to those principles that made BLW work for us in the first place and trust her with her food; we say what appears on the table and she has complete control over how much or whether she eats, although we do encourage her to take a ‘polite taste’. She loves chocolate and olives, blueberries and pasta with tomato sauce, just not all at once

At the end of the day, the aim of the whole process is to feed our children. BLW was and is the perfect fit for our family, and I have no doubt I’ll be starting all over again about this time next year!

Thanks so much Carie for this lovely post – Your plan to love your babies as much as possible and figure the rest out as you went along sounds pretty much like our plan in the beginning too!

If you’d like to read more posts about Baby Led Weaning then you can see the full guest post series and more here.

6 Months of Baby Led Weaning

We has been 6 months since we started Baby Led Weaning with Little Man. Those six months have been some of the messiest but most rewarding of my life!

I don’t think BLW second time around has been as messy as weaning LP but I think part of that is we knew what to expect and nothing will ever seem as messy as BLW for the first time.

Little Man eats food like it’s going out of fashion, tries everything and has clear favourite foods – Pasta and meat – Sausages, chicken, ham. He isn’t really fussy where meat is concerned! He also loves fruit and will eat it until it comes out of his ears.

Like with LP we have had a couple of instances of Little Man overeating if he really enjoys something – Pasta generally. He will eat and eat and eat so quickly that he doesn’t realise he’s full. LP used to do the same thing with mango. There have been a couple of horrendous episodes of him being sick just after going to bed because of this and so we try and pace him at meal times as much as possible.

Little Man has started to use a bowl at some meal times that suctions onto the highchair tray. Generally it’s still easier to put food directly onto the tray but we’re also trying to get him used to a plate as well. It’s a balancing act! We haven’t introduced cutlery yet apart from loaded spoons of yogurt and fruit purees which he loves!

Baby Led Weaning is definitely a lot less messy now that we’ve been doing it for 6 months. Little Man eats a lot, only drops things on the floor occasionally or if they roll down his bib and onto the floor. There is definitely now light at the end of the weaning tunnel.

Baby Led Weaning has definitely been the right choice for us this time and Little Man is loving it. Meal times are a real family thing and it’s great to have the children really a part of that.

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